Neurodivergence

I believe that in years to come, it will be common knowledge that brain uniqueness is on a spectrum that we all fall on, and that even the term neurotypical is not based in sound science. As a society, we are actually unaware of how many of us are masking in order to fit in and advance, including those of us who have been masking for our own survival. Adding to the complexity is an increased understanding that the nervous system operates not only on fight/flight/freeze but that fawn may be presenting in our societal norms more than we have previously acknowleged.

Neurodivergent folks often assume that we are the ones not understanding basic social norms, but what if those social norms don’t make sense and don’t actually serve the betterment of any of us? What if neurodivergent brains have the codes and keys to new ways of relating that truly feel in ease and consent? It is this strength based thread that we can follow to see what intelligence your system has about getting regulated in a world bent on overdoing it.

Somatic sex education and embodiment sessions designed to serve the neurodivergent population have two key differences in mind: We acknowledge neurodivergence not as a hyped up superpower but also not inherently as a disability either. We practice embodiment with unique caveats in mind around stimulation and presence and safety. And secondly, we acknowledge the end goal of sessions may be more ongoing regulation goals without subscribing to a script that more intimacy looks any certain way.

Essentially, in good sessions tailored to folks with neurodivegence, we follow the tenets of a good session I would do with anyone. We move at a slow pace. Everything is explained along the way until we achieve understanding. Multiple options for exercises are given and the client is in choice. Consent is explained and brought into each session. Pauses and sensory breaks are normalized. And touch or clothing removal never ever has to be a part of the session work unless desired and all of the above is in place. Plus, questions and repetition of all of this is welcome. We are just in a practice lab led by your curiosity!

Check out the articles below and see if any of this resonates. Neurodivergent folks tend to be more queer than their neurotypical peers, more likely to experience chronic health conditions and pain disorders (including those directly related to sexual expression), and tend to be more confused with the “rules” of dating and relating (likely because they don’t actually make sense!)

If you feel like this work may have something to offer in the enrichment of your life, or you are uncertain and want some questions answered, absolutely feel welcomed to sign up for a free consulation Here.